Home is not where you live but where they understand you. -- Christian Morgenstern(Tip o' the hat to dbackdad, at sadie's.)
I've never been able to articulate exactly how it was that I felt excluded from my former community when I started having doubts about Orthodoxy, but this quote nails it. Not only did most Orthodox people not understand me, but once I stopped being like them, they didn't even want to understand me. There are a few Orthodox people from my former life who remain close friends, but the majority were not interested in understanding.
Actually, this does bring to mind a quote I previously blogged by Shalom Auslander, on his former Orthodox community:
There were a lot of conditions for love and affection and continued membership, And they were serious, and they were ludicrous. It was, "You don't wear a yarmulke you can get out. You intermarry, we sit Shiva for you. You eat non-kosher and our children are not allowed to hang out with you." --Shalom Auslander
Parts of religion are okay. Other parts really suck.