The only thing that gets to me is what responsibility for [the outdated ethical standards of many Rabbis] lays in our hands…I mean here we are sneaking around on the web cloaked in anonymity snipping away at our religion; doesn’t change come from those courageous few who stand up and are heard, consequences be damned.
Do I, as someone who left Orthodoxy because of moral and historical differences, have a responsibility to stand up with my real name and shout that Orthodoxy harbors too many people with iron-age ethics? When I decided once and for all to stop wearing my kippah, I did it because I could no longer grant my silent support of ideas I believed outdated and immoral, nor of the community which shuns people I respect. Is it enough to just withdraw my support or do I have an obligation to voice my opposition? What is my responsibility towards those people who are still stuck in Orthodoxy because the social costs of speaking out are too great?
What about some of my readers who are Orthodox in appearence and lifestyle but who have grave misgivings about the Rabbis and extremists who claim to represent them? What is their responsibility to voice their dissent and take Orthodoxy back from the Right? Or to criticize Orthodoxy from within, to make it evolve or die? Should they stand up publicly and say, "This is what I believe, and I'm not ashamed?" If enough people did that, where would Orthodoxy be?